This morning, I was thinking about a conversation I had with my dad, several years ago. It was about the killing of a nurse in Buffalo. The alleged shooter, a surgeon, had served 18 years as a decorated special forces soldier. As we reflected on how tragic the situation was, my dad brought up another decorated soldier who in a maximum-security prison for a similar crime. Then he said something that stuck with me:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt\u2019s sad because these men have been trained to kill and fight\u2014but they have not been trained to live.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That statement hit me hard. And as I thought about it, I realized how much it applies to us as Christians. We are taught how to fight the enemy. We know how to resist the devil and make him flee. We put on the full armor of God and stand against the schemes of darkness. But do we know how to live?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yes, there are great sermons and teachings on family, relationships, and godly living. But listening to a message isn\u2019t the same as training. A soldier isn\u2019t prepared for battle just by watching videos or receiving instructions. He drills relentlessly. He disassembles and reassembles his weapon until it\u2019s second nature. He practices marksmanship until he can hit his target every time. Training is what makes him effective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The same principle applies to living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
According to Barna Research, conservative Protestant Christians have a higher divorce rate than many other religious groups, including Catholics and some mainline Protestants. Some studies also indicate that their divorce rate is comparable to or higher than that of atheists and agnostics. That statistic should make us pause. If we have so much teaching on marriage and family, why are we struggling so much? The research suggests that churches may not be providing truly life-changing, practical support for marriages. The issue isn\u2019t just knowledge\u2014it\u2019s training.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This isn\u2019t about condemning those who are divorced. It\u2019s about recognizing a critical gap. We don\u2019t just need to know what to do; we need to practice how to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you struggle with communication in your marriage, practice until you improve. Don\u2019t give up just because you have a fight or get hurt. We must learn to live well, not just fight well. If apologizing is hard for you, practice until it becomes second nature. If serving others in love doesn\u2019t come easily, train yourself to do it until it feels natural. A good attitude isn\u2019t automatic\u2014it\u2019s a learned skill that takes discipline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I look at Scripture, I see a pattern. Some of the greatest warriors, prophets, and kings knew how to fight\u2014but they didn\u2019t know how to live.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 King David raised sons who fought and killed each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Solomon, despite his wisdom, had disastrous relationships, with 700 wives and 300 concubines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Manasseh was one of the most wicked rulers in Israel\u2019s history, even though his father, Hezekiah, was a godly king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Samuel, a righteous prophet, had corrupt sons who took bribes and perverted justice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Isaac\u2019s sons, Jacob and Esau, were locked in bitter conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Eli, the priest, had sons who defiled the temple and led Israel into sin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These men were strong in battle, but many failed in their homes. It\u2019s a wake-up call.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, what will we do? Will we keep fighting without learning how to live? Or will we commit to training in the areas that matter most?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As for me, I choose to practice until I get it right. I hope you will too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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